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Feelings of grief may or may not be shown by the affected person. Such feelings may be present even if there is no outward display. This applies to both males and females.

Kwa Tjong-Liem, widower

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well said

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Wonderful post, thank you.

There's an old joke: What's the difference between a dog and a human being? Dogs know how to be dogs.

Unlike dogs, guys have to figure out how they feel and then whether it's safe to express it. I'm glad to see that tears of joy and sorrow are becoming an acceptable part of our emotional vocabulary.

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Ha!! And thank you for this reflection, I haven't heard it put like that before. So insightful. And also, happy new year!

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You always restore my faith in goodness and humanity; bless you!

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Thanks so much, Susan. Hope you're well!

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Thanks for another perceptive and authentic column, Susanna. I don’t quite wait tearfully for each new column of yours, but maybe almost. Happy holidays ❤️

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Aw, thanks Paul. And, same to you.

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Thanks for this - I had a father who was a lot like yours - RIP Dad.

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Thanks so much Janet, I think it's common.

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Maybe the younger generation of up and coming men are more open to displaying their emotions, which would be a good thing as long as it isn’t rage. We were taught to basically be stoic- you showed how you felt often by resorting to humor. I cry more than I want to, and struggle with feeling the need to hide it.

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